Comments on Delightfully Tacky: ...the sun couldn't rise without you, darling.

I have been following your blog for years and I re...

2011-08-30T19:42:13.970-07:00

I have been following your blog for years and I remember when you went through this time period of heartbreak. I just had my boyfriend of 4 years break my heart and it has been 7 weeks and I feel like I will never love another as I thought I was going to marry him. I don't know how to get over this. Then I think of you who went through the same, went on an amazing independent journey and now are engaged to the real love of your life. You have greatly inspired me to get through this, rebuild my life, enjoy being independent and alone and then perhaps search for the one for me. Perhaps the "one" is waiting for me just around the corner like yours was. Thanks for being so inspiring!

I come across this again and again. Thank you so m...

2011-05-04T21:58:32.489-07:00

I come across this again and again. Thank you so much for sharing. I haven't experienced such a breakup but I have gone through difficult things in my life, and reading about your challenges inspires me to take full advantage of everything life offers, ie. something like your Winne trip, but that applies to me. So thank you.

Can I just say I know exactly how you feel/felt? A...

2011-02-02T14:47:16.781-08:00

Can I just say I know exactly how you feel/felt? A similar thing happened to me- my first love (and I used to hate that term 'first love'- to suggest that there would be others, that it would one day end), who had been absolutely devoted to me for nearly two years, suddenly (to me) decided he wanted to move on. He even broke up with me in an email, which was AWESOME. Needless to say, I was devastated (your accident/hospitalization analogy is a great one), and took years to slowly heal. I think in some ways, I'm still healing- learning to trust others and learning to trust myself.
From what I remember, you have the Lord in your life, which is huge. I don't know how people survive life without Jesus.

this is all probably too little too late, but I just read this since you linked to it on today's post, and felt compelled to say that I know how you feel. Thank you for your honesty- you really are quite brave, Elizabeth. I hope you see that in yourself. :]

You know, I went through pretty much the same thin...

2010-12-28T05:06:37.849-08:00

You know, I went through pretty much the same thing in March. One day we were looking at rings, and talking about starting a family in the next year or two, and then.... he didn't want me anymore. ??? It took me..... like, 8 months? before I felt like even a shell of the person I had been. Its been a journey, and I'm still dealing with it, but.... its nice to know that other people have felt the same way and can commiserate. Thanks for sharing ♥

xo
Veronica

It was very brave of you to post this. Not only di...

2010-08-05T08:59:07.445-07:00

It was very brave of you to post this. Not only did it show how much you trust in your bloggers to share this but this gives hope to all those who are currently or have suffered a broken heart. I haven't read your blog in ages and decided to jump around and see how you been and what you've done. It's strange that I found this one. Currently i'm somewhat involved with a boy but not officially. He cares for me so deeply but I can't bare the thought of my heart being broken right now. I'm only 20 and can honestly say i've never cared for someone as deeply as him. Although we do everything like a couple we are not. He so desperately wants to be my boyfriend but I wont let it be. I'm so afraid of what you had. Having someone so close to your heart and then to have them taken away is a pain I cannot bare. So what I ask you dear friend is.....after all the heartache would you have done it again knowing he would stop loving you? Is the love really worth all the heartache and tears?

Everybody hurts sometimes (REM, not to steel quote...

2010-04-13T04:37:04.392-07:00

Everybody hurts sometimes (REM, not to steel quotes). We all know that. But you can learn something out of any situation. And you should! Let him live his life and live yours. He was not meant for you. But there is somebody out there, just waiting for you.

wow really? I wouldn't think they'd think ...

2010-03-11T12:57:40.347-08:00

wow really? I wouldn't think they'd think that of you. Don't worry I get the same thing. before I got married everyone thought my mother was the bride and I was just a quincinera!!! >_<

and ewwww on creepy old guys!

What I can tell you, is that guy is out there for you. The best advice I can give you right now is to heal first. Once you're healed move on to someone else, but until then try to mend that heart. If not, the next guy will pay for this guys mess ups you know?

I know you may feel that no it wouldn't be like that now, but our hearts main priority once it's felt such a great heartache, is to protect. So at first you may not feel it, but once the person gets in too close for comfort, you'll see the importance of healing first. I may be wrong. I'm just speaking from my own experience.

You deserve so much! I wish you could borrow my daddy for a bit so he can scare off all the jerks! And the one's who stick around after being threatened, you'll know they're good enough and intentions are good :)

wow..so enough of my storybook now!

just know if you ever need anything or to vent I'm here :)you can always email me
cupcakesniper@gmail.com

Haha, CupcakeSniper, Unfortunately everyone seems...

2010-03-11T12:39:08.744-08:00

Haha, CupcakeSniper,
Unfortunately everyone seems to think I'm 15, so the only people I've been hit on by since then are creepy older guys who think I'm this young teenager! Ew! Haha, I have to figure out how to look my age...

You are such a beautiful girl and I wish you'd...

2010-03-11T07:40:07.517-08:00

You are such a beautiful girl and I wish you'd never have to experience heartache. I have been there too and it's hard. but, at least you came to the point of crying! Hiding it all in is the most hurtful thing a person can do to themselves. (I know from experience). You are growing though! You have been able to admit the hurt, not just to yourself but brave enough to share it with us! WOW!! I applaud you my dear! I applaud you for giving it everything you've got, for being honest, and for working through the pain. He didn't make a wise decision. For whatever reason it may have been, you are an amazing girl. Never thing otherwise. If he is for you, he will come back, but you'll have to learn to forgive him, which is a very hard thing to do, if he's not for you, as cliche as it sounds, there is someone better, who's words to you will be held true til the end of time! That person you get to have matching rocking chairs with, holding hands, and in love.

Unfortunately, there are bumps in the road to get to that beautiful place!

I can't imagine how many guys you must get that hit on you! :)

I know that doesn't mean anything to you right now though, but any guy who doesn't see what a prize you are doesn't deserve all you have to give.

Now that those special texts have found their way ...

2010-03-02T19:56:06.252-08:00

Now that those special texts have found their way to the web, where they can be forever saved, you should clean house and make room for some new ones?

That's crazy that you lived in Spokane and Alaska. I'm from Coeur d'Alene and many of my best friends are from Anchorage!

i did the exact same thing with my first love, i s...

2010-03-02T19:04:12.185-08:00

i did the exact same thing with my first love, i saved everything. Now two years later i have moved on, have a new love and new life. looking back i can smile and know that i have lived, loved and learned.

I feel you. Getting over someone is so hard. The o...

2010-03-02T18:05:44.528-08:00

I feel you. Getting over someone is so hard. The one person that I truly loved has left me. I'm still struggling not think of him each day. I made myself busy with other stuff, and now I began doing charity work for kids. I have so much love to give and I chose to give it to them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I actually joined blogger because i love your blogs! You're an inspiration :)

I can't tell you how awesome it is to know tha...

2010-03-02T15:33:02.349-08:00

I can't tell you how awesome it is to know that other chicks have been through this too.... and healed from it. Thanks for sharing the story - it definitely meant something to me! It always feels good knowing that others have been through what seems impossible to heal from at the time. Thank you!

PS- I absolutely LOVE your blog, and your hair is my new inspiration to grow mine long! :) Love it love it.

WOW. This post is amazing. I have been where you h...

2010-03-02T14:46:31.645-08:00

WOW. This post is amazing. I have been where you have been, more than once and the feeling is just... I can't even find the right words to say. Thank you, Elizabeth, thank you for sharing this post with us. I know I am not alone in the world. :)

congrats on feeling better - the boy i thought i w...

2010-03-02T13:45:26.317-08:00

congrats on feeling better - the boy i thought i was going to marry broke up with me last november & i was devastated. we'd started seeing each other again a few weeks ago & we'd been appearing at parties & other events together. he called me last week to come see him while he was sick & took that opportunity to tell me he's been flirting with another girl... tonight, if he doesn't see us together like i do, i'm ending it for good.

you're fantastic & im glad things are moving in the right direction for you :-)

im writing this with tears in my eyes,you have bee...

2010-03-02T13:15:23.722-08:00

im writing this with tears in my eyes,you have been so brave !! thank you for sharing something so personal with us- the readers. Im sure it helped to breathe and let go a little. I know how it feels to love someone and to lose them, but you'll only grow stronger and learn from it, cliche i know but that's why its a cliche as its so true. When its the right time to meet someone new you'll only see how wonderful they are in comparison and how your days are some much happier than they ever would have been. Hang in there you are a strong beautiful and indipendant woman, with not to mention undeniably amazing style.

:)

awwwww.. hugs hugs

2010-03-02T10:27:25.919-08:00

awwwww..
hugs hugs

Thanks for sharing! I can totally understand it m...

2010-03-01T21:53:33.462-08:00

Thanks for sharing! I can totally understand it must be a huge step for you to talk about it to us!

I've been through a real heartache too which I denied for a while (trying to pretend to be strong). I also learned about his new love and marriage (yikes!) about 1 year after the breakup which wasn't fun at all.

I don't think it's about trying to forget the person - because I think it is almost impossible to erase fond memories. I think it's about figuring out who you have become because of the relationship. What experience did he give you? How are you different?

I think looking back and think about what you have learned about love, what you want in a guy, what you deserve as a girl, and who you want to be as a person are important.

You are who you are today because of your past experiences (good or bad). You are a beautiful and cool girl, all you have to do is to reconcile within yourself and be ready to open your heart to the right person when he comes along. He might just be right around the corner but you need to be ready to notice his existence. :)

Wish you the bestest!

thanks so much for sharing this precious moments o...

2010-03-01T20:35:07.316-08:00

thanks so much for sharing this precious moments of your life. i know just what you mean about how at one time they say those beautiful things and then bam, they change their whole attitude. i hope all is well and i hope you don't lose faith in love! best of luck! i know there are many people that love you. :)

god bless you,
erin :)

Just want to say... I am 25 and have been through ...

2010-03-01T19:34:55.617-08:00

Just want to say... I am 25 and have been through this, more than once, unfortunately. No one believes when you have this kind of relationship with someone, who seems like your soulmate, that it will end, that someone could suddenly stop feeling things you truly believed that they felt deeply. It stings. My most recent breakup in this nature was about two years ago, and I felt so fractured. I never thought I would come out it. In my situation, any guy who has said such big things to me, has made such lofty promises, has only failed me in the end. I think guys who build girls up like this are arrogant, self-centered liars. Why must they put girls on these pedestals, put so much pressure on them? They must have borderline personality disorder. This behavior is textbook. I really do feel for you, and I am so glad you are healing (but I still have some of these lofty text messages saved, too...).

I think it's very fitting that your dream Winn...

2010-03-01T19:22:46.835-08:00

I think it's very fitting that your dream Winnebago is the Brave... because that's what you have to be, first to survive this immense heartache without going insane, and second to share it with your readers. It takes so much courage to get over that first hump of realizing that what you thought was certain will be no more, and it seems that you've done it with gusto. I commend you for being able to share this facet of your life so candidly with us, and I have a feeling that the Brave project will be no problem for you- you already are!

that took guts girl, real guts. by the number of l...

2010-03-01T18:25:02.187-08:00

that took guts girl, real guts. by the number of lovely, encouraging comments on here, id say you have an awesome team rooting for you and here for you no matter what. you aren't alone out there, remember that! I too shy away from getting too personal on here. not sure how to get past that....

It is brave of you to put yourself out there, and ...

2010-03-01T14:10:56.064-08:00

It is brave of you to put yourself out there, and I think it goes to show how much youve healed. Heartbreak is a pain without comparison, and I spent years healing from something similar so I definitely feel you. I only threw out his letter last year, 4 years after the mess ended. It does get better, even if it does take its sweet time.

oh hun. Hang on in there, you're doing an awes...

2010-03-01T13:21:48.547-08:00

oh hun. Hang on in there, you're doing an awesome job x

you're such a strong woman, girl.

2010-03-01T13:01:49.515-08:00

you're such a strong woman, girl.